What They Don't Know Won't Hurt Them?

I have heard this so many times, "What they don't know won't hurt them".  I am sure many of you have as well, or have even said it, when someone wants to do something  they know they shouldn't because it will hurt someone.  For the purpose of this post we are going to refer to spouses but it holds true for any relationship.

After Christ, your relationship with your spouse should be the most guarded of all.  What does that mean?  The marriage relationship is a covenant relationship just like our relationship with God.  It should be esteemed higher than any other. The marriage covenant relationship was designed by God to be just like the covenant relationship with Him.  So the same principles should be followed.  God wants to be our only God and for you to  leave all other gods aside; like your spouse wants to be your only and for you to forsake all others.  Poppa God wants all our trust to be in Him and to know He can be trusted.  Spouses should be able to trust each other that way as well.  God says liars are from their father the devil, so lies have no place in our relationship with Him our in our marriages.  There is no such thing as a little white lie.  A lie is a lie.  Lies of omission are still lies.

No one likes to be lied to, yet at times, we ourselves will lie to someone we love and call it protecting them.  Justifying it by thinking it would hurt them too much to know the truth.  Though it may be true  they will be hurt, how much more when they find out you didn't tell them.  The hurt is then multiplied by feelings of betrayal.  And in some cases feeling like a fool because everyone knew except them.  God has said all things done in the dark will be revealed and shouted from the rooftops.  We can be sure that our secrets will be come out at some time. Sometime they are known and damage is done and you never know your loved one even knew.  Are you really ready for all that will come with it?  The loss of trust, and in some cases the loss of the marriage.

God can heal any problem that arises if both people are willing to allow Him to.  Sometimes, perspectives have to be changed for this to happen.  These same perspective changes can also eliminate the temptation to lie in the first place.  I will discuss a few of these in a future post.

God Bless,

Debra